40 before 40

Becci McEvoy

Be Heard Socials


When I was 28, in a moment of freaking out that I was going to turn 30 soon, being in love with a boy who never wanted to get married again or have more kids, and fearing he would never, ever change his mind; I had what can best be described as an existential crisis!

So I did what any rational thinking person would do, and I decided to put together a list of 30 things I wanted to do; by the time I turned 30. I guess in some kind of attempt to make me feel less like I was failing at life!

I achieved around half of them, which wasn’t bad considering two of them had been to buy a house, and have a baby… and by achieving both of those (apparently his mind could be changed – and in case you’re wondering, he went on to propose just before I turned 31!); I kind of wiped out the other half!

I’m now 36 and apparently am having the same life crisis about the fact I’m almost 40 (but with significantly less existential dread)! I’m happy with my life right now, but I liked the idea of doing it again, and so I’ve spent the last year or so thinking about a 40 before 40 list. I’ve taken much more time on this, than my last list, because I really wanted it to be not only right, but achievable too.

It’s now complete, and actually in the last year I’ve achieved a couple of them already. When I mentioned recently that I was doing it on my social media, I had quite a lot of people ask me to share it when I was done, so here it is!


 Book a ‘by the pool’ family holiday abroad that the kids will remember

 Explore North Wales

✳️ Create a travel bucket list

❤️ Be a tourist in 5 UK cities that I’ve never explored


✅ Do an escape room

 Go to a family festival

  Have a proper camping holiday

✅ Watch the sun set with the kids

✅ Watch the sun rise with the kids

✅ Dye my hair rose gold

✅ Open my own business

✅ Appear on a podcast

✅ Bake the kids a birthday cake

✅ Try paddle boarding

✳️ Learn beginner Spanish

❤️ Launch a podcast

❤️ Go axe throwing

❤️ Get a selfie with Jurgen Klopp


✅ Experience Reiki

✅ Try reflexology

 Read more

 Donate regularly to charity

✳️ Declutter the house

❤️ Learn to meditate and do it regularly

❤️ Give blood regularly


✅ Stick to a skin care regime

 Reach a barbell squat personal best goal that I am proud of

 Reach a deadlift personal best goal that I am proud of

 Reach a barbell hip thrust personal best goal that I am proud of

 Be debt free

 Choose whether to move or invest in the house we have

✅ Set up a pension and pay into it regularly

 Sleep more and stress less

 Give all the damns, but zero f**ks

✳️ Have an exercise routine and stick to it

✳️ Go into my 40s the fittest and healthiest I have ever been

✳️ Write a 50 before 50 list

✳️ Be able to do an unassisted pull up

✳️ Lose 2-3 stone and maintain it

❤️ Get a will

I have just over 42 months until I turn 40, so I need to be looking at ticking off at least one a month; and I’m going to try and use my social media to hold myself accountable to it. The campaign planner in me, has already thought about how I’ll make the ones that are more abstract, tangible, and I’ll elaborate on those as time goes on.

So, where to start?

Well, the last two years instead of New Year’s Resolutions, I’ve set myself a word of focus, that represented an area of my life that I wanted to improve. In 2019, my word was happiness, and in 2020, my word became health. I feel like I’ve largely failed on that so far to be honest, because, well, you know, 2020. In truth, I feel spectacularly unhealthy right now, and it’s making me feel increasingly more miserable.

With that in mind, for the last 4 and a bit months of 2020, I’m going to focus on the health section of my list!

I’d love to know what you think of the list, is there any that you’d like to do before your next milestone birthday, or any others that you’d add?

Come and connect with me over on Instagram and let me know!

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